Saints player Steve Gleason talks fatherhood, ALS, New Orleans, and parenting with Nola Family
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I can remember when my cousin, John Delong and his girlfriend Patty Frisk began dating. John worked at Frisky’s a restaurant in Northwest Arkansas. I am sure I did not know this at the time because I was younger. I remember them showing up to our house on his motorcycle. They were cute and sweet together. Patty reminds me of my great grandma Stowe and great grandma Virginia Stowe. Always sweet, always kind and always find he goodness in people.
My great grandma and my great uncle, would leave an event or talk about people and then say “they are good people, no really they are”. It was as if maybe I didn’t hear them or I didn’t believe them.
Well Patty and John are good people! No really they are!!
I can’t recall when I first learned about ALS, also known in the past as Lou Gehrig’s disease. Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, ALS.
I have some other words that I like to use when referring to this disease. But I will spare you my aware words.
We were so happy when Patty and John decided to marry and begin a family. Distance caused our relationship to be here there and everywhere. Sometimes keeping up with each other’s families through our mother’s. Though Patty was always good about sending Christmas letters and pictures. Something I too have once loved doing. Life so often seems to get in my way of snail mail. For two years, I have printed some cards sometime throughout the year. Addressed some, written personal memos even addressed but then never mailed. Damn me. And chris would be really pissed if he knew I spend money that he may seem as wasted. But I see it similar to the bait he buys and looses. These are similar issues that I had when I was younger. After our wedding, my mother would ask have you written all your thank you notes. At one point I told my cousin, Alex, who was dutifully trained to write thank you notes, that I may have thanked some people twice and some not at all. I really thought I was joking a bit. but Alex let me know they got two!!! Sorry to any I didn’t thank along the way.
I often say “consider me thanked!”
Over the years one motto is “do what you can when you can”. With Chris and I”s large family and friends there were times that we couldn’t afford to give to all we love And he stress it created for me at times became too stressful. When I realized that he joy had gone, I stopped giving any gifts. I committed to give our children the best we could. Don’t we all want more for our children?!
I think of so many of my mottos that have to do with leaving a place better then you found it.
Well our girls have lots of passion pertaining to there condition of he planet.
They carry disposable straws. They recognize the waste and consumption that seems so prevalent in our world. Some is important and at times I must have a straw.
I am so happy that Patty and her family have technology and resources to assist each other to care for one another. They get to meet their first grand child this fall and see their baby girl get married.
Though I am still I bit in denial that Chris and I beat them to grandparent world. I am so happy for their family. Our girls adore Megan. She was so helpful with our girls when she was in college. I can remember playing with both Angela and Megan over the years. Climbing trees, rolling around on the grass and playing with John. Like when my brothers and cousins were playing war in the back ground and I asked to play. They said that I could be the nurse. Well thank God someone else stepped in when an accident happen. I know john, Megan and Angela are the perfect people to love Patty. And to be her arms and legs just like Steve Gleason is able to describe in the above article.
Patty and Steve are both #faroutstars to me.
As June celebrates Father’s Day, I reflect on all the men who have modeled wonderful fathering. And I am excited for the new father’s. That get to experience the journey.
Happy Father’s Day!